It’s that time of year again! The time when shelves are stocked with red and pink, glittery goodness. The time when candies and flowers make an epic rise in popularity. The time when Nicholas Sparks movies cycle through theaters and television sets. (Let’s face it: who else can create an overly romantic movie that can warm your heart & make you hysterically sob at the same time?!)
I have a love/hate relationship with February 14th. For the longest time, my happiness on Valentine’s Day was contingent on my relationship status. One year I would love it, the next year I’d be so frustrated by it.
In today’s society, being a single woman around this time of year is a challenge. Some companies really capitalize on not only the giddy and in love, but the single and lonely too. Valentine’s Day marketing says that if you’re in a relationship, marvelous! Your day will be filled with love & romance. But, what if you’re single? Are you are expected to be curled up on the couch with a glass of wine and a gallon of ice cream? There’s such a stigma attached to being single. That’s what I absolutely can’t stand about that day.
Off my soapbox now….
It took me a while to figure out what this day actually means. Valentine’s Day is not about being single or taken. It’s simply about…..love.
Sweet, beautiful, treasured love.
Honestly, what could be better than that?
Love is a tremendous feeling. It’s one of the greatest gifts that God has given us. Love makes us do crazy, magical, and beautiful things.
There’s a certain energy that comes from loving & being loved in return. It ignites a flame of kindness, compassion, and care. Because when it all comes down to it, love is the only thing that matters.
Love isn’t limited to couples. Do you love your family? Your friends? How about your pets? What about self-love?
Celebrate those moments. Celebrate the fact that we all have the capacity to love.
But, if you’re feeling a little gloomy or in a Valentine’s Day funk, here are a few ways to beat those blues & celebrate the beautiful gift of love!
- Call/visit a person you love & tell them how much they mean to you: These days, everyone is so caught up in digital communication that oral communication has gone out the window. Change that. Call someone. Go to someone. Tell them how much you love & appreciate them. Let them hear your voice, let them look into your eyes, let them see your soul. Maybe you want to tell your parents how wonderful they are. Maybe your grandma needs to hear how much you adore her. Or maybe you want to thank a friend for their incredible amount of kindness & let them know the impact they’ve made on you. Vocalize it. Those are the moments that no text message can ever replace.
- Grab your Galentine’s! Grab your best gal pals and go out to celebrate! Go to a restaurant, a night club, a painting party, have a movie date filled with PJs, popcorn, chocolate, and wine! Get with your friends and rock on!
- Hug it out! I’m a firm believer in the power of hugs. I really do think hugs are the universal medicine. I can’t remember a time after I hugged someone & still felt crappy & blah. Sometimes, hugs can speak more volumes than words ever could.
- Volunteer: Just because it’s Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean that you have to sit around & feel sorry for yourself. Get out & about! Go volunteer at your local homeless shelter. Nursing home. Lonely? Looking for a special Valentine? Go volunteer or visit your local animal shelter. There’s plenty of sweet Valentine’s just waiting for YOU to adopt them! (Bonus: they’ll love & appreciate you forever!)
- Do a Random Act of Kindness: Showing kindness is the same thing as showing love. See a stranger on the street who looks a little sad? Give them a smile! Pay for someone’s coffee, buy a bag of goodies & hand them out to people, do whatever you can to make someone’s day brighter! It will also make your day brighter! 🙂
- Take yourself out! Yes, you read that correctly. Treat yourself to something special. Why do you need someone else to go along with you? You don’t need anyone to complete you. Go to that restaurant. Go to that movie. Be brave & bold!
Whatever you do this Valentine’s Day, make sure you celebrate love. If you’re single, don’t sit back in pity. Don’t sit around defeated, or depressed. Think about this: Valentine’s Day is just another day in the year. It’s another 24 hours to live through. And you WILL live through it! So why not just live?
Stop. Breathe. Let your lungs be filled with joy. Be happy you have the opportunity to live that day because guess what? It could be a FABULOUS day if you let it. Lastly, be grateful for who you have in your life,
not who you don’t have in your life. Remember, there is no difference between February 14 and February 15, except for your attitude and state of mind! (Oh, and the fact that all chocolate will be half off….winning!!!)